A Helping Hand
Why is it so difficult for us to receive help? There’s lots of no, no, no, you don’t have to, I’m fine, I don’t need it, etc…It’s an interesting thing. A helping hand feels so much like we’re burdening others and we spend so much time convincing that we are just fine doing things ourselves, when yet, maybe, it would be nice, even if it’s just for the company or the levity or even the extra hands. My mom has always said “Many hands make light work”, I never felt comfortable with that. I was always too caught up in not wanting to take away from other peoples lives, sort of a “they have really important things to do, why bother them with this?” Aren’t we just as worthy of others time? Wouldn’t we if the situation was reversed, help in a heart beat? We talk and teach this concept of loving ourselves and knowing our true value, but do we practice it?
Very. Good. Question! Definitely something to think about during this busy season…
November 22, 2010 at 04:57
This is a great topic. Speaking from my own experience, I think we are conditioned to be independent, self-sufficient, and self-reliant such that seeking help conveys weakness or vulnerability. It is interesting how we are eager to help others, yet find it difficult to ask for help. When I look more deeply at the feelings going on inside, either when seeking or deciding not to seek help, there is a sense of personal space. It some respects, for me at least, it is difficult to let others into my personal space (particularly if there is a perceived feeling of vulnerability). Seeking or accepting help is an invitation in, and this can be uncomfortable. While this may seem odd, I think it is a reflection of how much we create separateness out of a false sense of needing security. Thank you for opening the door to this topic.
November 24, 2010 at 17:57
This is an amazing topic and funny in a quirky-funny way, that many of us on this path of helping and offering of loving kindness have a hard time saying yes to help…or even identifying when we really need it? Absolutely we would be first in line offering, but taking it? after you, my dear…
xxoo
November 29, 2010 at 07:17
i have no idea what you’re talking about, cc. =)
xoxo
November 29, 2010 at 20:04